Sunday, August 31, 2008


For the first time I am writing review of a movie here.

Rock On – One reason why I liked the movie is it relates to one’s life. It doesn’t have unnecessary action (dishum dishum’s) or a character villain or unnecessary romantic scenes. All the characters are for real and their emotions change with time and circumstances.

The story as such is good but moves on very slowly. At times I felt that the direction could have been better. The movie is simple, showing that not all our dreams are fulfilled and those unfulfilled dreams always haunts us throughout our lives. The emotions have been portrayed well. Three times in this movie, this line is repeated – “life is full of compromises” and it is a fact and reality.

Farhan Akhtar as an actor doesn’t fit the bill as such but surprisingly is a good singer.. His chemistry with Prachi was really nice but somehow his acting didn’t gel. Prachi as farhan’s wife does her bit well. I have never considered Arjun Rampal as an actor and he doesn’t do much out here. Shahana Goswami as Arjun’s wife has done an awesome role.
Purab Kohli and Luke Kenny have also done their roles well especially in second half when the band is again about to play. The stage scenes were really good and all the four carried off themselves well.

The music is all enough for this movie to rock. Personally am not fan of rock music. Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy surely know how to create magic. Javed Akhtar'slyrics is also good.

My take – you should surely watch the movie once.

P.S – Rock On songs are going on in background as am writing this review ;

Friday, July 25, 2008

“Adventurous Night”

For a person like me who has lived a totally secured life even a small excitement is equal to an adventure. And that’s how I see that night, which I call adventurous night.

It was 24th February. I and two of my hostel friends (Shilpa & Krishna) had gone to tirupur to attend a friend’s wedding. Our train was to leave at 1 p.m. from tirupur station and reach Chennai by 9 p.m. So after attending the marriage, we three went to station and found that the train was 1 hour late. Now that meant that we couldn’t reach hostel by 10 p .m. (the time we are supposed to be back in hostel!! We were so happy that first time we’ll be outside our campus after 10 p.m.J). The train actually came at 3p.m. only.

The train journey was going on quite smoothly till around 9 p.m. when the avadi station came. The train stopped in avadi though it wasn’t actually a stop. After 10 minutes of stop, all the passengers were wondering why we have stopped here for long time. After 20 -25 minutes, an announcement came that the train won’t go after this station and all the passengers are requested to get down from the train.

This announcement resulted in a chaos among everyone as we didn’t know the reason for this. And to make matters worse the train had stopped in the middle of thee tracks and to get down we have to practically jump. It was around 9.30 p.m. and suddenly avadi station was full of stranded passengers. None of us knew what to do. We three were wondering how we could reach hostel. Getting transport at this time of night was tough and none of us new the actual route to go till egmore. We didn’t know whom to call also for help.

After 10 minutes or so, again there was an announcement that a local train will come which will go to central station. To get into the local train was a major task as the platform was overcrowded with all passengers and that too having heavy baggages also.

Somehow all 3 of us got into the train. We were hungry and tired and hoped to reach central station soon. There was a talk in local train that some derailment has taken place near central station because of which other trains were also affected. We thanked god that nothing happened to our train. The train stopped in Basin Bridge and we three were making plans on what to do for dinner when we reach central in another 10 minutes. But then that was not about to happen. The train stopped in Basin Bridge itself. Again there was major chaos as some said the train will leave and some saying that the train won’t move.

Now, all three of us were pretty scared. It was 11 p.m. and we didn’t know what to do. Half the passengers were getting down from the train. There was a gentleman who was sitting near us. He went and enquired and then came and told that the train will not move from here. Our cell phones had also switched off as there was no charge. When we came to platform we didn’t know how to go from there to egmore. We came out of the station and there was not a single public transport. Roads were full of stranded passengers waiting for autos and all. The same gentleman was also standing there and we asked him about bus stands but he said it was a bit far away and to walk till there alone won’t be safe. My local guardian’s were out of station and the other two friends didn’t have local guardians as such. As our cell phones were not working we didn’t know how to contact our friend’s. The gentleman offered us lift saying he has a car which is going to come to pick him up. Initially we refused saying we’ll somehow go. His car came some 20 minutes later and in that time we saw that there was no way we could get any other transport. Many passengers, mostly families, were having some 1 to come and pick them up and all those vehicles didn’t have any vacant places. To make matters worse, at some distance there were a group of guys who had been eyeing us for a long time and we were getting very uncomfortable. Finally after giving thought about it, I told my friend’s that it would be better if we accept the offer by that gentleman as we had no choice. He looked very decent and we had to trust him now, though he was a stranger.

So finally we decided to go with him till central station and went to him hesitatingly. Just that time his car came and then we got into it. True to his words he dropped us till central station. From there we got an auto and finally went to our college around 12.30. The “wonderful” guards were sleeping and we had to wake them up by throwing stones and shouting. Finally they woke up and opened the gates and we got into hostel totally tired and hungry but happy that we were safe.

And hence in this way our adventurous night came to an end. Though my parents didn’t say anything about it, Shilpa and Krishna’s parents told that they will never allow both of them to go out like this from now on!!

Saturday, July 19, 2008

“Get-Together Preparations “

People who conduct parties or some sort of get-together regularly wouldn’t be facing preparation problems. But what about those who keep it once in a while (when I say while, it means gap of maybe even more than 10 years :D) ?

Such a situation rose a few days ago in my house. Though still the planning and preparations is yet to be finalized but I would just like to tell this particular incident.

The get-together has to be organized on request of a family friend (Mr. N) who is visiting Bhilai along with his wife, daughter and son-in-law. His daughter and son-in-law are coming to Bhilai first time, after their wedding two years back. So Mr. N wants a small get-together with few families (still staying in Bhilai) whom his family knows.

This get-together has to be arranged by my appa and Mr. S. So, Mr. and Mrs. S had come home to discuss about the preparation with my appa, amma. I and my brother were also present during this discussion. The discussion starts –

The first point was to list the families who all were coming and number of members from each family (to get an estimate count of people for get-together). Among the 15 odd families, only two families were north Indian families and the rest tamilians only. So we first thought of asking Mr. N to not include those two families in the list as they will feel odd being among us. But then we remembered that SIL of Mr. N is also a north Indian and he might also feel odd if he’s only among us tamilians (err..he’s the chief guest of this get-together na!! :D). So finally the total number was decided after including those two families also.

The second point was to choose the place, whether to keep the get-together at our house itself or to book a hall outside. We didn’t want to this to look as a formal meeting but then to keep this within house would be slightly difficult. But after lots of discussions it was concluded that it’ll be in our house only.

The third and most important point is the menu to be served for dinner. The option to cook at house itself for all was ruled out unanimously, so we decided to order food. Now the question was to whom to order? This is purely based on the type of menu we wanted and also the type of people who were coming – north Indian (like puri, chapatti and sabji) or south Indian (like mixed rice and side dish) or south Indian Tiffin (like dli/dosai and sambar/chutney). Now none of us as such wanted Tiffin as it’s something very common we eat. Most of the people who will come are old so the menu should suit them. We decided to go for mixed rice (lemon rice, coconut rice etc along with some side dishes). Now we had to decide about the catering people. As there were two/three people/groups whom we knew will cater us? There was a debate on whom to choose with Mr. S saying he has tasted one of the caterers “aviyal” and it was good and Mrs. S saying that their another dish wasn’t good. My appa said that some other person’s dishes were not that good and trying to think where he had tasted it and my amma not agreeing to him. Overall the whole discussion was being enjoyed by me and my brother, both of us silently saying that we’ll go outside somewhere else with “chief guest and his wife” to eat and leave the “Hosts” (my parents and Mr. S) to be with other guests.

Suddenly my amma got up to look at the calendar to see which day 1st august is falling on, when she discovered that 1st was “aadi amavasya”.
This meant that no saadam on that day and only palaharam. So menu had to be again changed and now it has been finalized to idly, sambar, chutney and a sweet dish.

This whole discussion went for more than three hours and all of us got tired with it, so we decided to choose the caterers later. The decision is yet to be finalized and today only amma said that their might be some other change in the menu and all.

Well I don’t when the final decision will be taken and how the get-together goes on, but this incident made me wonder how the regular party-holders do their planning and preparations with so many criteria’s and conditions.

Thursday, July 3, 2008

Me and Carnatic Music

My relationship with Carnatic music has been of ambivalent nature.

As a kid I was very much interested in dancing. When I was in KG1 & KG2, I used to dance on my own in verandah in my house. I do not know whether I was good at it or not, but then I didn’t care because I was enjoying myself. Seeing my interest in dance, my parents decided to let me go into dance class. Simultaneously they enrolled me (and my brother also started coming with me) into carnatic music, thinking it’ll help me for my dance. Initially I didn’t bother about music classes as I was more interested in dance and just went there to please my parents. But within one year my dance classes ended as the teacher was not good and there were no other proper dance teachers. I was totally dejected and disappointed. But my music classes continued. Now the whole point was that my interests were fully in dance and not in singing, due to which in a way I started hating music lessons. But then went for the classes till my 12th with my brother (he loves it) as everyone expected me to.

During the Navrathri days, I used to have tough time. I loved going to everyone’s house and see the gollu, but then hated the part when I would be asked to sing. Whenever I go to some one’s place or to some wedding, after asking about my studies, the next thing am asked or told is to sing a song.

I love listening to Carnatic music. MS is Goddess and her voice gives one a divine feeling. And I love to go to kucheri’s. But then I hate singing especially in front of all. Unless I’ve interest in it, how can I sing from my heart?

One day in hostel, i waslistening to carnatic music in radio and got so much involved that i stared singingalong with it. Now i don'tknow if i was singing well but then again i didn't care as i enjoyed at that moment. But that doesn't mean i will enjoy singing all the time, especially when people ask me to at all times. Its my interest.

Well after my 12th, I left music classes. Now whenever I meet a relative or some family friend, one of the questions among the normal set of questions is surely about my singing. Once I tell them I’ve stopped going to classes, I’m advised to re-join and continue as am supposed to be good at it.

Now how can I tell them about my strange relationship of love-hate with carnatic music to them?

Monday, June 30, 2008

Security In Women’s Hostel???

Well, after staying in hostel for 5years this is 1 question that has always been in my mind. The situation that I’m going to say is just an example and happens just not in my hostel but in many other women’s hostel(be it a college campus hostel or other women’s working hostel).

One of the rules of my hostel is that all 5 hostel blocks gates should be locked from inside at sharp 10 p.m.

1st year in hostel – A guy was found roaming around the campus at night after 10. During those times the lightings at night around the campus were not good so all that the girls could see was a figure going around the campus. When security was alerted, they couldn’t catch the guy. He just escaped.

2nd year in hostel – A guy was found peeping into girl’s rooms in ground floor of one of the blocks. It happened in two successive weekends. Again the security was not doing anything & in the end all the windows(they were of old made wood where rods in-between can be tilted)of all ground floor rooms were totally jarred.

3rd year in hostel – One of the girls, who lived in 2nd floor of a block), heard a noise in backside of the hostel and when she peeped through her window, saw a guy trying to break (don’t know exactly what he was trying to do) a jarred ventilator of bathroom from outside. She along with another student councilor opened the gate of the block and quietly went to alert the security so that that guy can be caught red-handed, but the wonderful security guard started blowing his whistle while going to the place where that guy was supposed to be. And that guy ran off.

4th year in hostel - One of the rooms in a block has a balcony. The way to balcony from room has 2 doors, one wooden and one netted door. Well the balcony is covered from other three sides by wooden planks. On one end of that balcony, that wooden plank was slightly broken. Normally no one uses that balcony as there is no light at night. Only the netted door is kept closed. Well, one night a guy came into that balcony by breaking that wooden plank, but couldn’t get through the netted door. The lights were off in the room so the guy couldn’t see inside. One girl was just lying awake and just could make out that some one was there. When she made a noise that person ran off. Initially this incident wasn’t taken seriously as no one saw that guy. Management just told that the girl must have imagined things. But her room mates were very scared. After one week this thing again repeated and this time all the girls in that room were sure some guy was out there. When the girls started shouting that guy ran off. Then a plan was made to catch that guy. Next time the guy appears, instead of making some noise, it was decided to catch him while he tried escaping from balcony as that was the only way he could come and go. So when the next time he came, the girls quietly told warden and warden along with a few girls went and stood outside the balcony with net poles and sticks to beat him. A few other girls went to call security so that they’ll handle him later. But when they went to call security, a shock awaited them. All the security guys had been drinking and all were drowsy. Taking advantage of the situation, that guy escaped.

5th year in hostel – This year I was personally involved. Our block is at corner most in the campus. In one of my friend’s room, one wooden plank of the window is not there, so they had covered that portion with news paper. One evening she was alone at her room and felt like she saw a finger through the window. She came out of the room scared. I was sitting outside and when she saw me, she told me about it. Four of my friends also came and we went and sat in her room for sometime and we didn’t see anything. Initially we just thought she was imagining as she had been reading one of the crime novels and tried to pacify her. But she was still scared. We couldn’t find any security guard nearby. We were confident there would be no one behind our block. Just to prove to my friend, four of us decided to go and check behind the block. We went with net poles (as precautionary measure) and suddenly a guy turned up from his hiding place. Well we got shocked as we didn’t expect to see him. We started shouting so that security guys could come but before that the guy escaped from other side. At the same time another hostel girl heard running from the other end of that block. Well though that guy escaped, we decided to do some detective work ourselves to find how that guy could have come inside the campus and whether he could enter our block in any ways. We found that there had been two guys for sure and that they had knives with them (which make us fortunate, because what if they had tried to use the knife on us).

Well each year one such incident has happened in our hostel which makes me wonder on what could be done about security. After the last incident, when I and my friend went personally to ask warden ma’am, she told us a thing which is a fact and a thing to ponder over. She said that if we are going to complain about security guards not being proper then whom can we recruit? We can’t recruit young guys for obvious reasons. By recruiting old-age guards also it’s easy for any person to come inside and over power them (one or two old people were taken but we saw them and they just can’t do anything). By recruiting middle-age guards, well that’s what has happened till now, and we’ve seen there efficiency. We strongly feel in all these incidents, securities have been along with the intruder. And to find really efficient guards is tough because those whom you can really trust and believe won’t come as guard’s to a women’s hostel, they’ll get better paid jobs else where. So finding security has been a huge challenge to our management. These past five years I’ve seen the security being changed each year after such an incident and I believe this has been the case even before I joined that hostel.

Once when I was telling one of this incident to some acquaintances, they recounted similar incidents that has happened in some hostel’s in Bangalore, kerala etc.

So how to improve security’s in such places and to ensure that such incidents don’t happen. Though till now no causalities as such have happened, but if this continues then anything can happen. Our parents send us to hostel with belief that it’ll be secured place for us. These hostels’s have so much rules for girls saying it’s for the security of girls but then if such incidents are happening then there is in fact no security as they claim to be and these rules are unnecessary. How can this problem be solved?

Thursday, January 31, 2008

Who Am I?

This question I started asking myself during my final semester in college.
This question is not to get into any philosophical theory or something.
This question is only for me to answer to myself.
This question is to judge myself as a person or as an individual.

This question started troubling me after I got to know what in general people feel about me.

If someone asks me how I’m in academics, I can say that I’m an average person or just above average. But I got a rude shock when I found that lots of people think me to be a brilliant person, who is totally academic-oriented. Even many see me as a role-model (though there is nothing wrong in it but I don’t think I’ve accomplished anything that I could become a role-model for someone).

This made me wonder on how they got such a notion!

Is it, just because, I was, among very few students, who got placed in a software concern during the job placement. Or is because they always see me reading (actually novel). Or is it because, I like to talk about anything under the sun, from sports to movies to marriages to anything.

I’m a very extrovert person, ready to talk to anyone & everyone. Though I might not have knowledge about many things but I try to include myself in any discussion that’s going on in a group, but actually many have got this wrong idea that I’m a very quiet person!

Not just academics but in many other areas too, how I perceive myself, has been entirely different from how others see me.

This makes me wonder ‘Who am I?’

I’ve always believed that what a person thinks only is shown outwardly, unless that person is a very good actor. But now my own case has proved my belief to be wrong.
But then I wonder how it is possible.

Here, I just gave an example of my academics, to try to express myself better. There are many instances which have made me wonder about myself or what others think I’m.

If I’m not what I’m, then how can other see me in that way?? And if I’m what I’m, then how can other not see me in that way??


Who Am I?

Ps – I hope I’m able to find about this during my lifetime. I would appreciate if you can tell me what you personally think of me. It will be of real help.

Describe About Yourself

If you are preparing for your campus interview or any job interview, this is one question that you are very familiar with. “Describe About Yourself”!

I’ve always wondered how interviewers are going to judge a person with this question. I got many theories from various sources for this, as to why this question is asked. Well, I’ll put this case to rest here, as the interviewers only have to deal with the outcome of this question.

But what is more baffling is the kind of preparation that is done by many for this question.
I’ve seen people mugging, what is believed to be a standard format of answer, for this question.

With a high number of campus placements going on ,a number of placement institutes are being run to guide a person on how to master aptitude tests, how to face group discussion & interviews. I myself attended 10-days course in one of these institutes 2 years ago, just for the sake of attending it as it was arranged through college.
I was surprised with the way they were teaching students to answer interview questions. It was some kind of standard format only they were teaching. Students too, without thinking, just accept it and practice it.

For example – my name is so-so coming from so-so place, doing so-so course, hobbies so-so, details about parents etc. this whole detail they tell in a stretch and that’s the answer to the question (this is one of the type of answers I’ve seen people reciting, there are other types also!).

I agree that some preparation need to be done before attending an interview but to prepare answers to questions like this (which is similar to how it’s done for theory exams) is an extreme.
This is like you don’t know about yourself and want someone to tell you how to answer it!!

I’ve heard a lot about employers complaining that, though there are lots of jobs available, but they are not able to find proper candidates for it. I am not surprised by this, if the kind of preparation for interviews is done like this!!!

Well finally my answer to this question if asked!!
Personally, I see this question as a good opportunity to present myself in a nice manner to my interviewer and to make a good impression on him/her. And my answer will vary each time someone asks me!